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What I do on MySpace is my own business right?

  

MySpace in College Admission (for teens)

by Nicole Verardi
Source: National Association for College Admission Counseling
Topics: Teen Years (13-19), Hot Topics in Internet Safety

You've been working hard trying to get into college—researching schools, refining your essay, collecting glowing recommendations, studying on nights and weekends for the SATs or ACTs, maybe even preparing for a campus interview. Throughout all of this process, you’ve made a great impression as a serious, promising college student. Wait, though. Before you can relax on the couch to watch “American Idol,” there’s one more detail to take care of—your online blog.

Whether it’s through MySpace, Facebook, Xanga, LiveJournal, or Friendster, students are online—online sharing details with friends, online for everyone to see.

These sites help you keep in touch with friends and allow you meet new people. Many students spend hours each day updating their profiles, messaging their friends and clicking through photo albums. It’s harmless fun, right?

Now, how would you feel if your teachers saw your site? A college admission officer?

;Well, I would be a little angry because there are things in my profile that I don't want them to see,” said Aubrey Fait, a freshman at Saint-Mary-of-the Woods College (IN). “There is some information that I want to keep private between me and my friends, so I would prefer if my parents and college faculty not look at my Facebook profile.”

Other students don’t think what they do in their free time influences their school work, so it shouldn’t matter what information they have online. They may be right: You can be a great student, regardless what you do outside of school. When the embarrassing details of your social life are online for anyone to look up, though, you might want to re-consider what you post.

You might not like it, but you should know that adults—from your schools, families and even law enforcement—are looking at your pages.

Most colleges are not surfing the Web for your profile. However, when other people bring students’ blogging to their attention, schools do respond.

  • At least one college applicant was denied admission in part because of his blog on LiveJournal. The admission dean said the student’s blog, which was brought to his attention, included seemingly hostile comments about certain college officials (Kornblum 2006).
  • Swimmers at Louisiana State criticized coaches on Facebook and were kicked off the team (Kornblum and Marklein 2006).
  • A high school freshman in Maryland was reportedly suspended because of online photos (Greenfield 2006).
  • Police busted an underage drinking party at George Washington University after they found invitations online (Greenfield 2006).

Many middle and high schools have banned the use of these social networking Web sites on campus. Some private schools have even banned students from joining these sites altogether.

“I’ve been on MySpace and I can see that for kids it’s like their hangout place, their place to vent, their place to maintain instant contact—it’s hard for them to give it up,” said Judy Oberlander, a counselor at Ojai Valley School (CA). However, “since MySpace was taking a toll on study time and classroom engagement, in addition to the danger of the imprudent things being posted by students, we decided to outlaw MySpace use at school or any time.”

It’s happening all across the country: Students in middle school, high school and college are being suspended and expelled for their online indiscretions. Even if you disagree with these policies, they can affect you. And as much of a cliche as it is, your school officials are just trying to protect you.

With the MySpace bans, students need to be careful of what they post. Some zero-tolerance polices make it fair game to punish someone who is in a photo even holding what appearns to be alcoholic drink. Explaining this type of suspension to a college doesn’t really make a good bullet-point for your resume.

Even if your school doesn’t have these rules, your postings could affect your college admission. Most colleges do not look up students on these sites, but when other people draw attention to these possibly offensive blogs, then schools often take action.

“We have just started letting students know that employers, college admission personnel, and others may be checking their postings...Our students seemed very surprised by this,” said Julie Davis, Thomas Worthington High School (OH).

“In terms of college admission, I talk with the students about the importance of projecting a professional impression through voice mail messages, e-mail account titles and MySpace postings. I tell them a story once told to me by an admission counselor who said a student gave her e-mail address as partygirl@hotmail.com. She didn't get accepted to that college,” said Margi Wieber, college counselor, Providence Academy (MN).

Some college admission officers make themselves available for students on these sites as a convenient forum for Q & A.

“I have accounts on Friendster, Facebook, LiveJournal, Xanga, and MySpace. I do interact with a variety of students via these communities, however, it's our strict policy that the Internet should only help applicants, not hurt them...I, personally, don't think it's fair for college officials to take advantage of [these online interactions]—the one exception being a student's safety,” noted Ben Jones, communications manager for the MIT Office of Admissions.

“I don't ‘research’ applicants online using their pages in these communities—although other schools do, from what I read in the news. My interactions with applicants and current MIT students are initiated by them—not by me.”

Jeannine Lalonde, assistant dean of admission at the University of Virginia, also talks to students online who contact her. “After seeing current UVA students answer questions on MySpace, I decided to step in and offer some advice to the high school students who were posting. I knew it would open the door, but I also knew that seeing an admission officer on MySpace might:

  1. Make a few kids stop and think before posting info about questionable behavior on their sites; and
  2. Make some students realize that admission officers aren’t as scary as they might have thought.”

Sometimes students include Web-based communications such as blogs in their college application. Daniel Creasy, from Johns Hopkins University (MD), explains his experiences with student blogs as part of the application: “Many times, the work the students have done adds substance to their file and truly helps, but there have been occasions where this information raises questions and concerns.”

Creasy also cautions that when students contact admission officers through the school’s message boards and blogs, the information becomes part of the formal correspondence and can be factored in to the admission decision.

Applying to college isn’t the only thing you should worry about when you post your information online. Your profile can follow you as you try to get a job.

According to the 2005 study by executive job-search agency ExecuNet, cited in the Chicago Tribune, 75 percent of recruiters use Web research as part of the applicant screening process.

The same article notes that a recruiter withdrew a job offer after seeing the candidate’s blog.

One recent grad took down his profile when someone called him about a friend he went to school with. The caller identified himself as an employee at a consulting firm who was “facebooking” all the applicants and contacting their friends to check them out (Sposato 2005).

An intern was fired when the CEO discovered that the intern’s Facebook profile noted that he would “‘spend most of [his] days screwing around on IM and talking to [his] friends and getting paid for it’” (Conlin 2006).

There’s even a verb for people who get fired for what they put on their Web sites—dooced—named after the blog of a woman who was fired for writing about her job in her blog.

Basically, the point is that whatever you post, it never goes away. Once your information is online—even if you take it down—it becomes public information, as your page can be saved on anyone’s computer.

What You Can Do

  • First, be safe! Never post personal information such as your address, daily schedule, phone number, etc. Check out these safety guidelines from the Center for Safe and Responsible Internet Use and Wired Safety.
  • Make your profile private so that strangers can’t look at your information, and be cautious about adding new friends who you do not personally know.
  • Take down any questionable photos or exchanges between you and your friends. Give it the “Grandma Test.” If you wouldn’t want your grandmother to see it, then you don’t want other adults to either. Remember, pictures and references of you on your friends’ pages can be damaging too. You can ask them to take down this kind of information.
  • Don’t get a false sense of security on sites like Facebook, where you need an academic address, to view pages. It’s easy for faculty, alumni and random people to get on and look at your wall and photos.

Although blogs can be fun, remember that what you post is for public view, like broadcasting it on the six o’clock news. So when it’s time to apply for college, give your blog a second look to make sure you feel comfortable sharing everything you have posted with an admission officer and, later, with potential employers because your site becomes permanent, public information about you.

SADD - Students Against Distructive Decisions

 

This web site is all about students helping each other to

make positive decisions about challeges in their everyday

lives.

    http://www.sadd.org/

 

Dating

Getting to know someone... It can be exhilarating, puzzling, intimidating or fun - sometimes all at the same time.

Why Can Dating Be Confusing?

You Don't know the person and the other person doesn't know you.

You want to be liked and accepted.

You may be afraid of doing or saying something dumb or inappropriate.

You may be hoping a relationship will grow out of the date.

Even confident, experienced daters deal with the jitters.  Knowing the options in getting acquainted can help.

It's a Personal Thing

When it comes to dating, you pretty much make your own

rules, based on who you are, where you are in your life and

what you want.  Freedom to date can be exciting.  It also

means you're responsible for taking care of yourself in some

potentially charges situations.

Some Things To Keep In Mind:

Intimacy takes practice.  Dating teaches you about

someone else.  It gives you practice i relating to another

person.  You also find out a lot about yourself.

Decide what you want. You might date to meet people, to

have companionship, or to find a serious relationship.

Knowing what you want from dating can help you make your

best choices.

Respect yourself and others.  It's easy to get hurt

emotionally or to hurt someone else while dating.  Be

trustworthy and communicate honestly with others.

Require them to do the same for you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anger Management

Anger is a normal emotion, but it is . . .

Anger Management: Control, Redirect, and Change Anger Can Easily Get Out of Hand

Controlling Your Anger

Anger is a normal emotion, but it is important to keep your feelings in check to prevent a situation from escalating. Follow these seven tips for keeping your cool when it really matters:

1. Admit that you're angry: You can properly deal with your feelings once you are able to identify them.

2. Deal with it: Stop what you are doing, take some deep breaths, and count to 10.

3. Don't brush it off: Getting angry is normal. Ignoring your feelings will only make things worse in the long run.

4. Identify and understand the cause: Try to figure out the exact reason you are angry. Often people have an outburst about something when they are actually upset about something different altogether.

5. Walk away: This pro-active step allows you to have the power to change a situation.

6. Get a new perspective: Attempting to understand the other person's perspective in an argument might help you keep your temper down.

7. Vent to your family and friends: Explaining your feelings to those close to you might help you feel better about the situation.

Redirect The Anger

Being angry for a long period of time will only cause you more pain. Try to find activities to take your mind off things and help you relax.

1. Find a cause: Throw yourself into something positive. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, tutor a student at school, or help out a non-profit group in your community.

2. Find a hobby: Learn something new! Paint, draw, play a musical instrument, cook, read up on a subject of interest.

3. Exercise: By taking some time for yourself and engaging in physical activity you will be able to gain some perspective on your life. It is a perfect way to use up excess energy and calm yourself down.

Change Things!
If there are times you feel angry, you can be sure there are times that others do too. Work with your school or community to create a mediation and conflict resolution program. See if your employer or local school will start to offer anger management classes so others can learn to keep their cool. Educate yourself on anger management and teach your kids, students, families, and friends how to recognize their anger and how to diffuse potentially violent situations.

Tolerance

The Facts According to the Southern Poverty Law Center , somewhere in Every hour... Someone commits a hate crime . . .

The Facts

According to the Southern Poverty Law Center, somewhere in

Every hour...

Someone commits a hate crime

 

Every day...

At least eight black people, three white people, three gay people, three Jewish people, and one Latino person become hate crime victims

 

Every week...

A cross is burned

A hate crime is a crime directed against people because of what they are, not who they are.  These crimes include those directed at others because of their

  • Race

  • Color

  • Religion

  • National Origin

  • Ethnicity

  • Gender

  • Disability

  • Sexual Orientation

This inherent hate for a whole group of people for no particular reason other than one's own bias is not something people are born with.  Hate is a learned behavior.  In an ever increasing multi-cultural society people are often faced with those who are different than themselves and diversity awareness is a vital component to a peaceful existence.

The American Psychological Association, in referring to hate crimes, remarked, "not only is it an attack on one's physical self, but it is also an attack on one's very identity."  Hate crimes are any crimes where bias, prejudice, or bigotry are a motivating factor.  In 2002, the FBI reported that there were 7,462 hate crimes committed nationwide.  These crimes were motivated by:

  • 49% Race

  • 19% Religion

  • 17% Sexual Orientation

  • 14% Ethnicity

  • 1% Disability

Yet, the most disturbing statistic is that half of all hate crimes in the national are committed by youth ages 15-24.  Many times youth commit these crimes because they are ignorant or misinformed about the target group.  Just as this behavior is learned, it can be unlearned through teaching tolerance and understanding diversity. 

Solutions

Engaging youth in open discussion about their beliefs and stereotypes is a way to start fixing the problem.  They can think about the stereotypes they might hold about different groups and then think about times when they have been on the receiving end of such stereotypes.  In order to help foster tolerance, teens should learn to take responsibility for their actions as individuals, try to make an effort to reach out to those people who are different, and get involved in their community to learn more about the people they live with. 

Things teens can do to build tolerance:

  • Appreciate their own and others' cultural values

  • Object to ethnic, racist, and sexist jokes

  • Refrain from labeling people

  • Not judge others, especially for things they have no control over

Adults are integral in providing a positive, healthy example for youth to follow.  By being tolerant themselves, they can pass that behavior onto the youth with whom they interact.

Things adults can do to help teens:

  • Educate the community about hate crimes and diversity

  • Making sure that those who work closely with teens (teachers, school administrators, police officers) receive diversity training

  • Help develop constructive activities for youth

Resources

Center for the Prevention of Hate Violence 

Partners Against Hate 

Depression 5 -Ways to Fight It

  

5 Ways to Fight Depression

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If you feel depressed, it's best to do something about it — depression doesn't just go away on its own. In addition to getting help from a doctor or therapist, here are 5 things you can do to feel better.

  1. Exercise. Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day — or dance, jog, or bike if you prefer. People who are depressed may not feel much like being active. But make yourself do it anyway (ask a friend to exercise with you if you need to be motivated). Once you get in the exercise habit, it won't take long to notice a difference in your mood.

    In addition to getting aerobic exercise, some yoga poses can help relieve feelings of depression. Try downward-facing dog or legs-up-the-wall pose (you can find these poses on yoga websites). Two other aspects of yoga — breathing exercises and meditation — can also help people with depression feel better.
  2. Nurture yourself with good nutrition. Depression can affect appetite. One person may not feel like eating at all, but another might overeat. If depression has affected your eating, you'll need to be extra mindful of getting the right nourishment. Proper nutrition can influence a person's mood and energy. So eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and get regular meals (even if you don't feel hungry, try to eat something light, like a piece of fruit, to keep you going).
  3. Identify troubles, but don't dwell on them. Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression. When you know what's got you feeling blue and why, talk about it with a caring friend. Talking is a way to release the feelings and to receive some understanding. If there's no one to tell, pouring your heart out to a journal works just as well.

    Once you air out these thoughts and feelings, turn your attention to something positive. Take action to solve problems. Ask for help if you need it. Feeling connected to friends and family can help relieve depression. (It may also help them feel there's something they can do instead of just watching you hurt.)
  4. Express yourself. With depression, a person's creativity and sense of fun may seem blocked. By exercising your imagination (painting, drawing, doodling, sewing, writing, dancing, composing music, etc.) you not only get those creative juices flowing, you also loosen up some positive emotions. Take time to play with a friend or a pet, or do something fun for yourself. Find something to laugh about — a funny movie, perhaps. Laughter helps lighten your mood.
  5. Look on the bright side. Depression affects a person's thoughts, making everything seem dismal, negative, and hopeless. If depression has you noticing only the negative, make an effort to notice the good things in life. Try to notice one thing, then try to think of one more. Consider your strengths, gifts, or blessings. Most of all, don't forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal.

For more information, check out these articles:
Depression
Can I Get Over Depression Without Taking Medication?
Going to a Therapist
Talking to Your Parents - or Other Adults
Why Exercise Is Wise
Nutrition & Fitness Center

Reviewed by: D'Arcy Lyness, PhD
Date reviewed: July 2007

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